THIS IS HOW I CHOOSE TO END THE MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH

 

THIS IS HOW I CHOOSE TO END THE MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS MONTH

Mental health is very delicate; we live in a world where there are so many triggers to make one dysfunctional to a point where one can feel critical. I have had my struggles with relationships especially with in-laws, I can gladly say that I am more aware of triggers, my support system and my coping mechanisms. However, not everyone is this lucky.

One of the greatest tragedies in life is basing everything on an assumption that you will be fine especially when trying to co-exist within a hostile environment. Trying to do good and doing your part is not good enough. Sometimes it gets to you especially when you feel like the whole world is or could be against you.

Today I would like to pose this question; have you in your lifetime made somebody feel worthless? Have you felt better after ganging up against someone or exposing a fellow human being to stigma due to your biases and ill motives?

Let us have a candid conversation, are there any good intention in acting like we are there for people yet we thrive on making them doubt of their worthiness? I think growth comes when we admit to the fact that happiness is contagious and if only we made someone happy it would spread like bush fire.

I could be one of those people who have seen it all and everyone expects me to be strong, I know we are many, am likely not to be alone in this, my dilemma is, trying to cope and not hurt someone back, understanding that trying to cause pain is likely triggered by one’s own personal traumas.

Let us investigate our actions, at work, in then family and even with our neighbors. Our own children and those under our mentorship. Truth is rarely told, but that alone can set us free. Saint Theresa of Calcutta commonly known as “, Mother Theresa of Calcutta once said “I AM ONLY A WIRE, God is the Power”. In my own opinion, you have to let good deeds manifest in you by allowing yourself to experience good thoughts. You can never do good with evils intent, good attracts good.

I know you’re wondering where am going with the figurative speech. Let me break it down for you. You cannot feel good by causing pain on others, any pain, physically or emotionally. You can be the one on the giving end and the next day be on the receiving end. Karma is never late.

Let us be our brother’s keeper, let us be intentional about how we co-exist with the human race. You don’t need to be everybody’s friend, that’s not the point. All you need to do is ensure you scrutinize your actions and question your thoughts and feelings because that is what feeds your actions. When you feel disappointed, hurt and angry give yourself time to process your feelings and your thoughts, then and only then can you be able to handle the situation triggering the feeling amicably.

Someone once told me that life is for then living when I was undergoing prolonged grief. You see the issue was not losing this person, my struggle was trying to think of who would replace the loss. This happens when one loses especially a primary care giver. You can easily get into depression and find it hard to cope, in short life can lose its meaning. If you know someone who has lost someone, or something, a job maybe, create time, reach out, you do not have to say anything, help out, do good, attract good, not just for that person but for you too.

Influence good always. Be that change agent. There are so many people hurting and we are not even aware, emotional wounds cannot be seen, they can only be felt by the one suffering. They are easily hidden with a mask called a smile. Most of us think they present themselves in teary eyes, well not really. That could be onions! Learn to listen to then untold story. The fidgeting and other body language do manifest where anxiety lives. Be the peace that people seek, the consoler, the one who knows when they are helpless and can link a needy person to actual help.

A lot has been said about mental health during the awareness month, a lot of information dispensed. It is all there, go out and be the support system one might be looking for. Go save a life.

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